5851  Chicho interview: what to do?

From: "Anton Stanley" <anton@alidas.com.au>
Subject: Re: [Tango-L] Chicho interview: what to do?




The cabeceo gives ultimate power to the woman to refuse a dance without
publicly injuring the ego or dignity of the suitor. Why is it such a problem
for Western women to practice it? Is the problem that W. Women don't
want to appear to be soliciting for a dance. Why can't they admit they want
a dance? Natural law would suggest that leaders who constantly fail to win a
dance, will either fade away, or re-engineer themselves to become more
successful. It's got that Tango feel about it don't you think?

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But how do I know what a woman wants? Even though 3 years and countless
lessons have ticked by since I
embarked on tango, my greatest battle still lies in understanding how each
woman wants to be embraced and led. Although I believe this to be the most
important aspect of the dance, I think I have had minimal instruction on
what is ideal. "invite and then follow"; "take me with you"; "strong lead";
"gentle lead" "gentle embrace"; "firm embrace"; "soft" "hard" etc. It
appears one size does not fit all.

Anton