3373  making it personal

Date: Tue, 19 Apr 2005 08:59:28 -0400
From: andrea <ako31@NYC.RR.COM>
Subject: Re: making it personal

hi all,

i have watched in amusement all the personal attacks and counter
attacks.
i actually find it interesting how people tend to reveal their
vulnerability here and attempt to convert others by insulting them.
posting on an international forum as this lays one open to all kinds of
responses. it goes with the territory. may be time to not take it all
so seriously. my son recently came to watch me dance and his response
was that no one looked like they were having any fun. hehe. like tango-
sometimes it looks like you're not having fun when u actually are, i
think some are having fun here.

but i also think it distracts from some useful dialogues that i enjoy
reading first thing in the morning . when i am exhausted from being out
dancing too much and too late its good to know that there are other
maniacs out there like me.

my suggestion- the 4 agreements:
1-take nothing personally
2-make no assumptions
3-be impeccable about your word
4- be your best

ok, ok, no need to contact me that i didnt quote them PRECISELY

!

andrea

Date: Tue, 19 Apr 2005 13:53:11 -0500
From: Leonardo Kunkayo <leonardok@MAC.COM>
Subject: Re: making it personal

Andrea you are very insightful.

“Vulnerability revealed” is a good phrase. I would also say insecure.
Insecure people attempt to elevate themselves in others eyes by tearing
down and insulting others.

If you have to press a point by insulting another you have already lost
the argument.

May your tango prosper,
Leonardo K.

On Apr 19, 2005, at 7:59 AM, andrea wrote:

> hi all,
>
> i have watched in amusement all the personal attacks and counter
> attacks.
> i actually find it interesting how people tend to reveal their
> vulnerability here and attempt to convert others by insulting them.
> posting on an international forum as this lays one open to all kinds of
> responses. it goes with the territory. may be time to not take it all
> so seriously. my son recently came to watch me dance and his response
> was that no one looked like they were having any fun. hehe. like tango-
> sometimes it looks like you're not having fun when u actually are, i
> think some are having fun here.
>
> but i also think it distracts from some useful dialogues that i enjoy
> reading first thing in the morning . when i am exhausted from being out
> dancing too much and too late its good to know that there are other
> maniacs out there like me.
>
> my suggestion- the 4 agreements:
> 1-take nothing personally
> 2-make no assumptions
> 3-be impeccable about your word
> 4- be your best
>
> ok, ok, no need to contact me that i didnt quote them PRECISELY
>
> !
>
> andrea
>
>
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