2300  A tango mom's wedding advice to her son

Date: Wed, 3 Mar 2004 11:05:52 -0600
From: Karen Whitesell <kglass@MO-NET.COM>
Subject: A tango mom's wedding advice to her son

February 28, 2004

A MOM'S WEDDING ADVICE TO HER SON

Dearest Adam,

We often hear in the dance world that "Life's a dance." Let me share with you just how your marriage will benefit from what I have learned =
from my dance world, the Argentine Tango. First, all you need is balance, a sense of rhythm, and a passion for life.

You have a great partner for this dance, so don't mess it up by trying to dance by yourself. Bethany is a part of you now, together you have =
one heart, four legs. Never assume anything, or take her for granted, and never take a step without asking first. She can follow you or she =
can be a part of you. The latter is much more fun. Together you will be one whole.

Strive to keep a good connection. Lead straight on; if you veer off course, the connection will be broken. This connection is the tango =
dream that keeps us coming back, seeking that perfect bond again and again. So stay really close and don't pull apart, or you'll have to =
start all over again. Touch, Touch, Touch. Even the embrace of the hand feels really good.

Be clear in your lead, communicate what you want. She cannot read your mind or guess what you want. She looks to you for the lead, she agrees, =
and then you follow her. Said another way, you invite her to move; she moves and you go with her. You are sharing this dance, not dictating it.

Don't be surprised when Bethany wants to lead. Welcome it, turn over the reins, and enjoy the ride. Can you shut your eyes and not question blind =
trust?

Savor the song. You only have 3 minutes. You may wish to charge ahead double time or keep the steady beat, or sometimes even skip a beat. Use =
this to add variety, for we don't want the same cadence all the time. Let every note have meaning and purpose. If you are listening, you will =
stop on the last note.

Always follow the line of dance, going with the flow, and never causing havoc for others by passing or showing off. Take advantage of the space =
to experiment, but respect the people around you. Protect Bethany, always, no matter what. Do not lead her into harmful situations, nor =
allow her to inflict harm onto someone else because your lead took her there.

The location of your dance is unimportant, around your table at home or around a crystal ballroom. A new venue can open up new adventures. =
Always take trips to stay interesting.

Remember women like to dress up, so don't let this wedding be the last time you wear formal wear. Frequenting formal milongas can keep you =
current and always ready to go.

Keep yourself clean and fresh. There's something about a clean shaven face that feels so nice to be close. Something about the smell of Irish =
Spring Sport that makes one want to get close.

Keep yourself fit . Walk, Walk, Walk, every chance you get. Even the simplest exercise, the simplest steps can be most beneficial. Practiced =
regularly with one's life partner, .priceless.

Finally, dance is a 50-50 experience. Always please Bethany in her favorite ways, because the more she is pleased the more pleasure comes =
back to you equally and then some.

And most importantly, love Bethany as you love life, for "Life is the dance."

Your loving Mom, Karen Whitesell

Date: Wed, 3 Mar 2004 19:36:41 +0100
From: Andy <andy.ungureanu@T-ONLINE.DE>
Subject: Re: A tango mom's wedding advice to her son

Karen Whitesell wrote:

>A MOM'S WEDDING ADVICE TO HER SON
>
>Dearest Adam,
>
>We often hear in the dance world that "Life's a dance." Let me share with you just how your marriage will benefit from what I have learned from my dance world, the Argentine Tango. First, all you need is balance, a sense of rhythm, and a passion for life.
>
>

Dear Karen,

if life is a (one) dance it is OK, but don't write him (yet) about
tandas and new partners! :)

Andy