1873  A question for women: What do you want

Date: Mon, 6 Oct 2003 21:22:38 -0400
From: Michael B Ditkoff <tangomaniac@JUNO.COM>
Subject: A question for women: What do you want

I'm a regular columnist for the tango magazine "La Voz del Tango" which
comes from California. In the March/April 1999 issue I wrote an article
"What Women Want." Based on completely unscientific non random sampling
of women in Washington, DC and Denver, the results were:

1) Women want to hold and be held
2) Firm, but gentle lead
3) Executed correctly and in time to the music

At the time I wrote the article, I had been dancing tango for about six
months years and absolutely terrible, which was a step up from pathetic
when I started. I was convinced that women wanted to do figures, the
flashier, the more complicated, the better. I was surprised to find out I
was wrong.

Well, now I've been dancing tango 5 years and no longer terrible. Now I'm
mediocre. Now I can execute figures I could only dream of 4 years ago.
But I wonder if what women want has really changed. I'm guessing that
when they started they had their own insecurities. But now they are
better and what used to be a struggle is no longer a struggle. But have
their expectations changed?

The question is "What do women want?" now that they are better. Do
experienced women want difficult figures to so that they can utilize the
skills they have been developing for years or are they happy with a
"simple" dance with the three items listed above paramount.

WITHOUT attribution, I plan to publish the results in the magazine. You
can respond to the list or to me privately at tangomaniac@juno.com.

Thank you for your interest.

Michael Ditkoff
Washington, DC
Looking forward to New Year's Eve at Dance Manhattan in New York