1863  smarter at tango- was:Tango No Name/no style/Just

Sent: Friday, October 03, 2003 7:57 AM
To: TANGO-L@MITVMA.MIT.EDU
Subject: Re: [TANGO-L] smarter at tango- was:Tango No Name/no style/Just
Generic Tango/No Rules, NO Regulations

A. Coleman wrote:

>
> I have noticed, however, that women often are much smarter about

picking

> tango dancers than they are at picking men in real life. Probably

because

> they can dance with many men in one night.

I once told a close friend from Argentina: "You know, what I love about
tango lyrics, is that they are made of naked emotion."
The dance is similar. Remember the saying I mentioned, "You dance with a
man
for three minutes, and you know all about him". The reason is, that in
dancing tango with a man, the woman can very quickly and directly pick
up
clues about his artistic, creative, emotional, physical and sexual
behaviour, that would not give him away so quickly during any other kind
of
first meeting, and maybe not even after knowing him for months.
It is not, because we get to dance with several men during one evening
(I am
not going to repeat the above pun), the real reason is, when a woman
dances
tango with a man, he cannot hide, and he cannot pretend to be better
than he
is.
Now, I am not going to join Aron in his groove of "women are like this
and
men are like that", so I am not going claim to know for sure, that this
must
be because of women's famous intuition. I could imagine, that for men,
it
may be the same.
What do you say, guys?

Astrid, wondering

P.S.
Having said that, I might add, that there are men I "pick" and gladly
dance
with, and love, respect and adore as tango partners, while I know, I
would
not be able to hold an interesting conversation with them sitting down
for
even five minutes. Being a good match physically in tango says nothing
about
at all about whether you are matched mentally or intellectually. So, in
that
sense, it is easier to find a suitable partner in tango (and not just
one,
but several different ones) than in real life. And one thing that
contributes to us getting so carried away in tango...

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