2547  Dancing with non-opposite sex

Date: Mon, 12 Jul 2004 00:23:27 +0000
From: Oleh Kovalchuke <oleh_k@HOTMAIL.COM>
Subject: Dancing with non-opposite sex

Caveat: I dance in close embrace

I have been invited to dance by a man at recent milonga. I had to decline
even though he is an interesting dancer with amicable personality. Normally
I do not turn down an invitation to dance, especially with someone I have
never danced with before. I am also aware of popular tango history -
bordellos, man dancing with man etc. However to me tango is very intimate
experience (not that this experience necessarily goes anywhere beyond the
dance floor). I cannot, nor would I like to share this intimacy with another
man.

Can intimacy of tango be taught? I do not think so. I think it comes from
personality and I do not think dance can drastically change personality.
Rather dance sieves through and chooses suitable personas. It s like Swing -
you will not understand it if you have to ask. Instructor can provide the
framework: embrace, smaller steps perhaps, but it s hard to fake it.

This reminds me recent post on Tango-L about partner sharing and very
insightful comment by the Argentinean milonguero. Something in the vein of
"The dance is between the man and the woman who choose to share it. A third
party should not make this partner choice for them." I think the reason is
the same as in my case. We could potentially share the mechanics but would
loose the dance.


Cheers, Oleh K., a male dancer with some obvious limitations

https://TangoSpring.com - This Saturday I am DJing at "Tango in the Park"
outdoor milonga in Manitou Springs

PS On tango movies: "Before Sunset" - another movie with tango spirit (as
well as it's prequel "Before Sunrise")

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