4041 Married Couples in the milongas: redux
Date: Sun, 5 Feb 2006 11:51:01 -0500
From: Ira Goldstein <eyegee@TWCNY.RR.COM>
Subject: Married Couples in the milongas: redux
Does this mean that my wife & I should remove
our rings & arrive separately at a milonga if we
would like to dance with other people, out of
respect for porteño "culture"? If I go to a
milonga without my wife, will Argentine women
dance with me if I have a wedding ring on,
assuming that they somehow have adjudicated me to
be dance-worthy at all?
Thanks,
--Ira
At 1:03 PM +0900 2/5/06, astrid wrote:
> > In the Bay Area there are countless married couples who everyone knows are
>> married and they dance with other people. They come together, they walk
>in
>> together, and then most separate to find their favorite partners. There
>are
>> others who come together and only dance with each other. Some dance
>together a
>> bit, and then go off to find other partners. THIS WILL NEVER HAPPEN IN
>BUENOS
>> AIRES, trust me. The married couples stay together.
>> Next point, in San Francisco, the married woman or man may greet their
>> friends. It doesn't matter who their friends are. They say hello.
>
>The men in BsAs also have a saying:"There is nothing more boring than going
>to a milonga with your own wife."
>
>The reason, nobody greets them when they come in with a partner is A)
>because the partner may be someone other than their wife, and you are
>supposed to politely ignore this or B) it is really their wife who is not
>supposed to know that they have been there all week without her.
>
>Astrid
Date: Sun, 5 Feb 2006 12:04:43 -0500
From: Ronda Patino <rondap@MINDSPRING.COM>
Subject: Re: Married Couples in the milongas: redux
Hi Ira,
When Manuel and I (married) went to B.A., we each wore our rings as always.
However, we were in a group of friends and I walked in with two other women
and he walked in with our male friend. We sat with our friends, me with my
two female friends, he with the other male more or less on the other side of
the room. What was great, is then he could catch my eye (cabeceo), we
danced and people could see our dance. Later he could also dance with the
other women at our table thus showing that we all would dance with other
people and getting us all started dancing. Similarly our male friend could
ask me to dance, etc, etc. He was actually the partner of one of the women.
This worked great! I got to dance a lot and so did my friends as did Manuel
and Charles. Enjoy!!
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Sent: Sunday, February 05, 2006 11:51 AM
To: TANGO-L@MITVMA.MIT.EDU
Subject: [TANGO-L] Married Couples in the milongas: redux
Does this mean that my wife & I should remove
our rings & arrive separately at a milonga if we
would like to dance with other people, out of
respect for porteño "culture"? If I go to a
milonga without my wife, will Argentine women
dance with me if I have a wedding ring on,
assuming that they somehow have adjudicated me to
be dance-worthy at all?
Thanks,
--Ira
At 1:03 PM +0900 2/5/06, astrid wrote:
> > In the Bay Area there are countless married couples who everyone
> knows are
>> married and they dance with other people. They come together, they
>> walk
>in
>> together, and then most separate to find their favorite partners.
>> There
>are
>> others who come together and only dance with each other. Some dance
>together a
>> bit, and then go off to find other partners. THIS WILL NEVER HAPPEN
>> IN
>BUENOS
>> AIRES, trust me. The married couples stay together.
>> Next point, in San Francisco, the married woman or man may greet
>> their friends. It doesn't matter who their friends are. They say
>> hello.
>
>The men in BsAs also have a saying:"There is nothing more boring than
>going to a milonga with your own wife."
>
>The reason, nobody greets them when they come in with a partner is A)
>because the partner may be someone other than their wife, and you are
>supposed to politely ignore this or B) it is really their wife who is
>not supposed to know that they have been there all week without her.
>
>Astrid
Date: Sun, 5 Feb 2006 13:42:37 -0800
From: Dr Zarlengo <zarlengo@MAC.COM>
Subject: Re: Married Couples in the milongas: redux
I know many women who do not wear their wedding ring even hear in the
US. I am not sure their motivations. I know one who loves jewelry
and has a couple of wedding rings, one with a large diamong. She
says that because of her work putting on elastic gloves and off
often, that she does not wear her rings.
When I meat any woman, I have a habit of look at their left hand to
see if they "are married."
Others when you first talk to them, they make a clear statement about
their husband to let you. Others will ask me, "Oh is your wife here
tonight?" Not to subtle!
I attend to dance. I run into good dancers and mediocre dancers.
Obivously, it is more fun with a good dancer. The Tango/milonga flows
like a spring breeze.
Don
El Feb 5, 2006, a las 8:51 AM, Ira Goldstein escribió:
Does this mean that my wife & I should remove our rings & arrive
separately at a milonga if we would like to dance with other people,
out of respect for porteño "culture"? If I go to a milonga without my
wife, will Argentine women dance with me if I have a wedding ring on,
assuming that they somehow have adjudicated me to be dance-worthy at
all?
Thanks,
--Ira
At 1:03 PM +0900 2/5/06, astrid wrote:
> > In the Bay Area there are countless married couples who everyone
> knows are
>
>> married and they dance with other people. They come together,
>> they walk
>>
> in
>
>> together, and then most separate to find their favorite partners.
>> There
>>
> are
>
>> others who come together and only dance with each other. Some dance
>>
> together a
>
>> bit, and then go off to find other partners. THIS WILL NEVER
>> HAPPEN IN
>>
> BUENOS
>
>> AIRES, trust me. The married couples stay together.
>> Next point, in San Francisco, the married woman or man may greet
>> their
>> friends. It doesn't matter who their friends are. They say hello.
>>
>
> The men in BsAs also have a saying:"There is nothing more boring
> than going
> to a milonga with your own wife."
>
> The reason, nobody greets them when they come in with a partner is A)
> because the partner may be someone other than their wife, and you are
> supposed to politely ignore this or B) it is really their wife who
> is not
> supposed to know that they have been there all week without her.
>
> Astrid
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